When you go shopping for your wedding dress, it's not unusual for you to bring some or all of your bridesmaids, as well as your mum or your partner's mum, so that they can all give their input on each dress you try on. But one bride has been left furious after her mum accused her of "ruining dress shopping" for her because she decided to invite two other people along for the trip.
The bride-to-be said she invited her best friend and her future mother-in-law to come dress shopping with her and her mum, but that left her mum raging as she believed it should be a "special moment" between the two of them. Eventually, the mum was willing to allow her daughter's friend to tag along, but still put her foot down about any of her future in-laws being present.
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In a post on Reddit, the bride claimed: "I am getting married to a wonderful guy next fall. I'm organizing a wedding dress shopping weekend in the next couple of months and I invited my best friend, my mum, and my future mother and sister-in-law.
"My mum is having a breakdown because I invited my future mother-in-law and says I have ruined dress shopping for her and dress shopping is supposed to be a special moment for the mother of the bride. She wants it to be just the two of us. She's potentially willing to have my best friend there but not my in-laws."
The woman claims her mum is "very against" her wedding in general, and so she wants other loved ones present when she buys her dress, especially as her in-laws have been "nothing but accepting and supportive" of her.
She added: "My mother has been very against the wedding since the very beginning because we're not doing it how she wants. My parents are not contributing financially to the wedding at all [even though] they are very well off and could easily afford to do so. She's upset because we're not having a religious wedding, and we're having the ceremony on a separate day from the reception with just our immediate families.
"She's also upset because she resents my fiancé's family because they live near us and are wonderful people who have been nothing but accepting and supportive of me from day one. I’ve never been very close to my parents because they've never really accepted me. So am I the a**hole for inviting my mother-in-law dress shopping?"
Commenters on the Reddit post were quick to tell the woman how "lucky" she is to have a mother-in-law that she's close to, and encouraged her to push ahead with her plans to invite her dress shopping.
One person said: "You are incredibly lucky to have a future mother-in-law that you feel close enough with to ask her to be there while you try on dresses! That said, your mother doesn't get to make these decisions for you. Your wedding, your call as to who is invited. If she can't respect your wishes, perhaps she doesn't need to come at all."
As another wrote: "You're the bride, not your mother. It's your day, not hers. She's being selfish and trying to make the day about herself rather than about you, your husband, and your new life."
While a third posted: "Your wedding. Your dress shopping guest list. Your mother is stirring the pot and wants the whole event to be what she envisions. However, this isn't her wedding so she is just a guest and should be gracious. Have the wedding you want and if mum can't play nice, tell her she won't be there."
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