When it comes to planning a wedding, most brides spend months going over every detail to make sure their special day goes off without a hitch. But one bride-to-be has been slammed for trying to make her bridesmaids abide by her "outrageous" requests to help her create the 'perfect' day.
Taking to Reddit, a bridesmaid explained how her sister has ordered her to cut at least six inches off her hair because 'nobody can have longer hair than the bride'.
She said: "My sister is getting married in a couple of months - I'm happy for her. The guy she is marrying is a cool enough person and they work well together.
"She asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding party and I accepted. Then she started listing her requirements, some understandable - like wearing longer sleeves to cover up my tattoos which I'm fine with.
"But one of them was really weird and felt kind of pointed at me, everyone in the wedding party must have shorter hair than the bride by at least six inches."
The bridesmaid went on to explain how her hair is a "super important" part of her identity having spent years growing it to knee-length.
In an attempt to reach a compromise with her sister, she offered to wear it up on the day so she could be seen as having the longest hair - but this wasn't good enough for the bride.
"My sister freaked out when I said I wasn’t going to cut my hair. I offered to wear it up, she said that would distract people from her and that she wanted all her bridesmaids to wear their hair down," she added.
"I assured her no one would be distracted because of my hair. Our mother agreed with me and tried to assure her as well.
"I offered to just be at the wedding instead of in the wedding party and she began throwing a temper tantrum."
She ended up turning her back on the bride-to-be, saying they would continue the conversation when she had calmed down.
The bridesmaid said: "Later on I get a call from her fiancé who just says 'Hey, I know you don't want to cut your hair, I'm sorry about that. Could you just do it for your sister? It'll grow back.'
"Obviously I told him I'm not cutting like half my hair off for one day just to spend years growing it all back out.
"He sighed but said he understood and apologised but my sister is still being unreasonable.
"I'm annoyed by the whole thing and I really don’t want to deal with her s***. If she's going to freak out about this, I worry what else she's going to freak out about."
Not wanting to take no for an answer, the bride made her fiancé phone her sister up again to see whether she'd changed her mind.
"I got another phone call from my soon to be brother in law, he was like 'Hey she hasn't stopped crying for like thirty minutes can you please just cut your hair?'" she added.
"I told him no and also that I'd be dropping out as a bridesmaid and just going as a guest.
"He sighed again and basically said 'Yeah, I kind of figured that would happen. I’m sorry about this.' At least he was nice about it but she keeps sticking this poor man on me."
While most users urged her to stick with her guns, others blasted the bride for demanding so much of her wedding party.
One user said: "I’m not sure why anyone would think asking someone to alter themselves in a way that will take years to return to the original state for eight to 12 hours of ‘It's my special day’ is reasonable?
"But when are bridezillas ever reasonable… you may need to decide between your hair and being a bridesmaid/the relationship with your sister."
Another user added: "She can't tell you what to do with your body, and that most definitely includes your hair!
"It sounds as though she may be a bit jealous and doesn't want people to comment on your lovely hairdo.
"Honestly, I would decline being a bridesmaid if I were you. It's a shame if this is the hill she wants to die on, but I wouldn't be giving in. She is being very unreasonable and entitled."
A third user said: "This is asking too damn much and frankly your sister sounds unhinged.
"I don't know why this needs to be said but brides are not entitled to carte blanch modification of the wedding party.
"Demanding participants make permanent changes like pierce ears, remove tattoos, or undergo cosmetic surgery for your wedding is a hard no.
"Asking people to cut their hair, completely change the colour is also a big no. Telling bridesmaids to start tanning, for a sun kissed glow is also a hell no.
"This lady needs to get a grip and realise her wedding is a single day and not a lifestyle. For that one day she can determine dresses, and some other surface level aesthetics, but that's it.
"Any changes that cannot be easily and immediately be undone after your wedding is wildly overreaching and smacks of entitlement."
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