A bride has sparked a debate after asking whether she had a right to be “annoyed” that her leading bridesmaid wasn’t losing weight for her wedding. The bride-to-be explained via Mumsnet’s Am I Being Unreasonable forum that she had taken her bridesmaids to buy matching dresses a year ago.
The ladies found a dress that they all loved - but it was only available in sizes up to a 16. The bride’s best friend and maid of honour, who she describes as “a bigger girl”, couldn’t fit into the dress - but told the bridal party to buy them anyway, because she was planning to lose weight for the wedding. But a year later, the bride admitted to fellow Mumsnet users that she had growing concerns.
“She’s made almost no effort to try and get the weight off,” she explained. “I haven’t raised it at all with her and left her to it, but having just been away for a girls’ weekend, it was quite obvious that she’s now even bigger than when we bought the dresses and doesn’t seem to be moderating her eating at all.”
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The bride added that with the wedding now nine months away, she was worried that she would have to find and pay for a set of new bridesmaid dresses for the occasion. But the story left Mumsnet users divided, with some quick to criticise her attitude while others were more supportive as the post racked up almost 600 comments.
“How would you feel if your ‘friend’ did this to you?” one person asked. “Took you dress shopping with a load of skinnier people and made you feel lesser because the only dresses they have are too small.”
Another person added: “You shouldn’t have bought dresses that didn’t fit and by a company that doesn’t even do over a size 16. Hardly your best friend if you didn’t consider her. This is all on you.”
“If you actually value this friendship, take the pressure right off,” a third advised. “She was over optimistic about losing weight, and may well have felt pressured to say she would to please you. For lots of people the stress of that and feeling she’s letting you down could very easily cause weight gain rather than loss.”
However, others thought that the maid of honour was the one in the wrong. “As an obese woman who has never been able to keep weight off for any length of time I still think she is the unreasonable one - she shouldn’t have made an agreement she couldn’t keep to, and that has cost you money,” one person wrote.
Many Mumsnet users suggested getting the dress altered or buying a new one instead. “If she’s your maid of honour then it’s even easier to put her in something that goes with but isn’t exactly the same as the other’s dresses - and she’ll look better in something that is intended for her shape,” one commenter suggested.
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