A woman has been urged to leave her boyfriend after he bought her a 'special dress' to wear to a party in front of all his friends. She explained how she has a "very simple style" and doesn't like other people picking out her clothes - but her boyfriend enjoys dressing her up regardless.
Taking to Reddit, she said: "My boyfriend and I are going to a party next week and he purchased a frilly, floral white dress, where part of the back is exposed and shiny gold shoes for me to wear without me knowing. He decided that I'm wearing the outfit because I'm his girlfriend and he wants me to look good. I had no say so on the outfit and it's completely not my style."
She says her choice in clothing has been the subject of several conversations throughout their relationship, as he tries to dress her up time and time again. I only wear the things he buys me on special occasions or not at all and I know it makes him upset," she added. "But I just don't feel comfortable in the clothes he picks.
"I brought it up to him and he said I was being ungrateful and he will never buy me anything again. So I just shut up about it.
"The dress isn't horrible, but I would 100 per cent never buy it for myself. I just wish he asked me if I liked it before he bought it, asked if I had my own outfit planned or simply asked if he could pick what i'll be wearing.
"I understand the gesture, but we've talked about him not buying me clothes or letting me help decide so that were both happy."
Not wanting to seem ungrateful, she agreed to wear the dress despite knowing she'll feel uncomfortable in it all day long.
After sharing her admission on Reddit, users urged her to leave her boyfriend before he starts trying to "control" other aspects of her life.
One user said: "Those 'gifts' aren't for you. They're for him and he knows it. I’d lose the whole man. He clearly doesn't respect you. You're a human, not a doll."
Another user added: "Today it's clothes, tomorrow it's hair."
A third user said: "You get to wear what you want to, it's your body. Simple.
"Giving your boyfriend benefit of the doubt, it seems like he shows his love by buying you things like this outfit.
"Although, if you have discussed it, he should not be trying again, and definitely should not be calling you ungrateful.
"He's definitely giving some red flags."
One more user added: "This is a super weird flex to begin with, and even more so after you've talked about it.
"It's controlling, and it's not his place to dictate how you want to style yourself. You're not his dress up doll.
"He should wear the dress and the shoes. If that's what he likes, he should wear it."
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