Stepping foot into adulthood is what many children dream about. They fantasize about finally having the freedom to eat pizza five days a week, go to a friend’s house unannounced, or stay awake till midnight on a weekday. Sure, free will is a big perk of being an adult but nobody tells these kids just how many crushing responsibilities come with it… or they simply don’t listen. Nonetheless, they inevitably learn this later on, when they’re suddenly left to make their own appointments, wonder what they’ll feed themselves, and realize the bed starts calling them at 8 p.m. Then, it becomes clear that adulthood is not the rainbow and ponyland they imagined it to be.
Undeniably, many of us are stuck in this phase, thinking that adulthood is a total scam. To make these thoughts more bearable, we compiled a full list of adulting memes shared in the Adulting subreddit. To find them, all you have to do is scroll down.
While you're at it, don't forget to check out a conversation with Shari Botwin, LCSW, trauma expert and author of Thriving After Trauma and Stolen Childhoods: Thriving After Abuse, who kindly agreed to chat with us more about the struggles of adulthood.
#1 I Just Want
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#2 My Favorite
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#3 Real Adults
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Shari Botwin, LCSW, trauma expert and author of Thriving After Trauma and Stolen Childhoods: Thriving After Abuse, believes that many people find adulthood to be hard because it feels like an overload of responsibility.
"Between managing finances, relationships, fear of failure, and for some a lack of support, adults find themselves feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about their present and future," she said to Bored Panda.
#4 You Were Right
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#5 Eye Opening
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#6 I Think I Was Rushed Into Being An Adult
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Even scientific research considers the ages between 18 and 29 to be amongst the most difficult years. Developmental psychologists call this phase emerging adulthood, as it’s full of mental and emotional challenges. Because of this, it was found that adults in these years have the highest rates of depression and anxiety.
#7 🤷♂️
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#8 Even Then It Burns Me Out
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#9 Just Some Solid Advice For Adulting
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Botwin suggests that societal pressure to have it all figured out could also be contributing to adults’ stress levels. “The fear of rejection and pressure to conform often leave adults feeling insecure and stressed out. Many of my clients have expressed feeling like no matter what they do, it is never good enough,” she shared.
#10 This Is Literally What's Happening To Me Everyday
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#11 So Relatable
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#12 My Mother-In-Law’s Wise Words About Being Upset With The Election Results
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“Societal pressures lead to unrealistic expectations about finances, appearance, and relationships. For example, some adults have talked in therapy with me about feeling like they have let others down if they are not in a traditional family or making a certain amount of money. These unmet societal expectations often lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions,” she further explained.
#13 30 😭
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#14 R.i.p
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#15 Being Alone Is Addicting
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Over time, it gets harder and harder for those who want to conform to societal expectations to do so, as it gets increasingly more difficult for young adults to find a decent job, a partner, and buy a home. These growing challenges, combined with still-developing brains in the early 20s, often create suitable circumstances for mental health issues to present themselves in the phase of emerging adulthood.
#16 Real
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#17 Don't Be The Definition Of Insanity
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#18 Ok 😶🌫️
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Botwin believes that what can help people to better transition into adulthood is setting realistic education, career, and relationship goals for them. “This allows adults to move through the transition with less anxiety and stress. Prioritizing mental health and continuing to develop a network of adults who can guide and offer support also supports adults as they transition into a new phase of life.”
#19 Ugh
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#20 This Is Not How It Ought To Be
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#21 We Just Gotta Keep Pushing Through
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But even though the adulting struggle is real, it can be manageable. Botwin suggests that grown-ups practice self-compassion and implement a variety of self-care techniques, which help to manage daily life challenges. “Focusing on the positive aspects of life and making time for fun and lightheartedness makes the shift into adulthood more tolerable and less stressful. Avoiding perfectionism and making space to have a tribe of supporters lessens the burden of adulting.”
#22 Too Many Negative Stories Here, I Love My Adult Life
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#23 Officially An Adult🥲
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#24 Everything Needs My Attention
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“Being grown up does not mean that we have to be perfect or that we cannot ask for help,” she added. “Being an adult does not mean that we will not make mistakes and that we should never have fun. Adulting can be amazing when we give ourselves permission to be the person that we want to be, and that society does not get to decide what we should or should not be doing regarding our finances, relationships, and needs outside of our daily responsibilities.”
#25 How True Is This?
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#26 I Thought I Was The Only One?!?
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#27 For Real 😏
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#28 Is It Really Bad That I Don't Have Any "Real" Hobbies? When I Get Off Work, I Just Want To Shut My Mind Off And Do Absolutely Nothing
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#29 Its Never In Between!
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#30 Mental Health Is Worth More Than Any Paycheck
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#31 Facts
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#32 What’s The Fucking Point When We Don’t Make Living Wages ?
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#33 This So True
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#34 A $1 Saved Is A $1 Saved
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#35 Real
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#36 Is This Really A Hack Though? 🧐
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#37 🤦♂️🤦♀️
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#38 True Or No?
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#39 😉
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#40 Every Single Time
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#41 *Sheds A Miss America Tear*
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#42 I Am Punished For Being A Playful Adult
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#43 Which 3 Are You Picking?
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#44 Just A Cycle
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#45 For First 15 Years My Mom Thought I Was Joking
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#46 This!!! We Need To Learn This
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#47 Take The Time And Try To Find Yourself
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#48 I Just Know I Was Supposed To Marry Money
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#49 Happens At Least Once Day
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#50 😩
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#51 Whyyy?
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#52 Can't See Nothing
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#53 This Is So Real
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#54 The Next Generation
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#55 Another Weekend Gone
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#56 Childhood Punishments Are Adult Goals
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#57 Just Want To Be In Bed
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#58 I Can Relate
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#59 And Those 48 Hours Feels Like 30 Minutes
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#60 My Princess Lifestyle 🥹✨✨
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#61 At This Point I Strongly Believe I’m The Only Normal Human Being My Company Managed To Hire 😭
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#62 The Sad Truth Smh LOL
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#63 Quite Literally
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#64 That's Exactly How I Feel
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#65 I Deserve It
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#66 When Your Saturday Goes By Too Fast
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#67 So True
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#68 This Sub In A Nutshell
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#69 Cakes And Candles Bro 💯
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#70 Story Of My Life LOL
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#71 How True Is This😂😂
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#72 It Really Do Be Like That 🪥📑
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#73 This Made Me Laugh. And Then Cry. Because It Hit Too Close To Home
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#74 Everyone Is Getting Engaged, Promoted, Or Going To Grad School. And I’m Looking Up How To Be A Bottle Girl In A Club So I Can Afford Rent
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#75 It Happened
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#76 So Relatable
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#77 Being In Your 20s
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#78 What’s Going On With The Job Market
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#79 I Miss Being A Kid
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