Being a wedding guest seems pretty straightforward, right? All one has to do upon receiving an invitation is RSVP on time, turn up looking pretty (without wearing white!), have a great time, and (politely) celebrate the couple. However, not everyone is capable of following a few etiquette rules, making it a day to remember, in a bad way, obviously.
Our team at Bored Panda has carefully collected some of the trashiest wedding guests that couples immensely regretted inviting. Scroll down to find them, and make sure to upvote the ones that are worse than any bridezilla out there.
While you're at it, don't forget to check out a conversation with Kate Duff, wedding and event planner and founder of Hitch Perfect, who kindly agreed to tell us more about the faux pas of wedding guests.
#1 A Guest Wore A White Pantsuit To My Wedding
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#2 Wedding Guest At Our Table
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#3 Family Friend Said I Looked Fat On My Wedding Day
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Kate Duff, wedding and event planner and founder of Hitch Perfect, tells us that the most common faux pas of wedding guests is RSVPing late.
"This is a big source of stress for couples, as it makes final preparations difficult—not to mention costly when you think about the fact that most couples pay per head!" she said.
#4 MIL Wants To Renew Her Vows At The Same Location And Day Of Her Son’s Wedding
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#5 Wedding Party I Went To Decided To Light Fireworks Inside A Warehouse Type Building With No Proper Ventilation Which Caused People To Leave Soon After
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#6 Family Member Brings Kids With Lice To Wedding
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"Bringing along uninvited kids is another major faux pas," Kate adds. "Most couples these days specify on their invitations whether children are welcome or if it’s an adult-only affair. Many prefer the latter due to the interruptions that can occur during the ceremony!"
#7 Selfish Guests To A Bride With Cancer
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#8 I Went To A Wedding, Got There Early, Found A Decent Seat With A Good View ... Minutes Before The Nuptials Started, This Lady Sat Down In Front Of Me And Did Not Care One Bit That Her Fan Blocked The View Of Every Person Sitting Behind Her
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#9 Can You Just Move Your Wedding So I Can Attend My MlM Conference? (Seen In A Fb Group)
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One more serious mistake that wedding guests are guilty of committing is arriving late. "Wedding day timelines are very carefully created to ensure the ceremony happens seamlessly—there are many events that need to happen to make up a wedding day so late guests can cause unwanted delays. It’s for this reason that timelines often include buffers for tardy guests," Kate explained.
#10 Friends Wedding Photos That Will Never See The Light Of Day. She Asked Everyone Not To Wear Cream, White, Or Black. Sadly She Forgot To Mention You Also Couldn’t Wear A Wedding Dress
SIL showed up in a ‘yellow’ dress….WITH a train!! Bride is on the left in the bottom photo.
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#11 From A Wedding Shaming Group, Also “Ring Bear”
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#12 That’s... Not How It Works
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Fortunately, the bride and groom can avoid poorly behaving guests on their special day by managing expectations early, said Kate.
"On your invites or wedding website, include clear directions on dress code, plus-ones, ceremony start time, and any other key details. Appoint a key contact for the day of the wedding to handle any guest-related issues. This is usually your wedding planner. However, if you’re planning the wedding yourself, identify a trusted family member or close friend to keep an eye on things," she suggested.
#13 The Dress The Hair & Make Up Girl Wore To My Friend's Beach Wedding
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#14 Someone Poorly Cut And Ate Part Of My Wedding Cake That We Cut (We Had Cupcakes As The Shared Dessert)
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#15 Hiding A Wedding Dress You Plan To Wear At Your Own Daughter’s Wedding
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Kate also strongly recommends couples utilize a master of ceremonies (MC) to prevent guests from ruining their event. "Many MCs will ask the couple ahead of time whether there are any guests to ‘watch out for.’ If you have an attendee that you know can be trouble, have a word with your MC to make sure no impromptu speeches or unsavory song choices make the cut."
#16 No, No That's Not The Bride
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#17 Flashback To When My Mother In Law Wore This To Our Wedding. You Could Also See Her Purple Thong Underwear Through The Material. See Her Hand Reaching Out! This Was During The Kiss When She Grabbed Him So She Could Kiss Him
She wore white to one other sisters in law wedding too. The third sister in law she approved of so she wore purple. She is no longer in our lives for many reasons.
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#18 MOH So Late Ceremony Nearly Canceled
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Even with all these precautions in place, there's still a chance that there will be guests that the couple will regret inviting. They can avoid this by setting priorities while planning the wedding. "This is particularly important for the guest list. If you value a more intimate, close-knit celebration, use this to guide your decisions on invitees," Kate said.
#19 My Wedding Was Yesterday And I Sent My Mom A Pic Of The Memorial Table That Had A Photo Of My Dad And My Husband’s Brother 🙃
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#20 Why Can’t I Wear White?
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#21 Guests At My Friend’s Wedding A Few Years Ago
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"Consider whether you can realistically see them in your life in 10 years," she further advises. "Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime—make sure your guests are reflective of the importance of the occasion. This is particularly useful when considering whether to invite work colleagues."
#22 Best Wedding Story?
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#23 Rude Guest Wears White And Will Not Shut Up
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#24 This Entitled Person Tried Getting My Uncle To Move His Wedding Day Because That’s Also Her Wedding Anniversary
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Lastly, Kate encourages couples to stand firm on obligation invitations. "You don’t need to invite someone because you went to their wedding. You don’t need to offer a plus one or allow children to attend. Keep in mind that this day is about you!"
#25 Mum’s Friend Wants To Sing At My Wedding
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#26 The Old Guy Who Stole The Wedding Cake
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#27 Got Married This Weekend. Amongst All Of The Messages Of Congratulations, My Wife’s Cousin Got This One
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#28 My New In-Laws Couldn't Make It Out To The Wedding, But They Dropped Off Their Wedding Gift Today
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#29 Guest Switched Cheap Gift At A Wedding
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#30 Got Married 5/14 And Did A Dance With My Sister In Honor Of Our Mom That Passed Away. Apparently My Grandmother Decided That Standing On The Dance Floor Looking Pissed Was The Look
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#31 All Because I Didn't Put Her Boyfriend's Name On The Invite
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#32 T-2 Days Until The Wedding And I Just Got This In The Mail
After a very emotionally and financially taxing wedding planning era, I felt I was finally turning the corner today into excitement for our wedding on Saturday when I recieved this letter in the mail, no return address and no real discernable information for who may have sent it. The only clue is on the postage cancelation stamp, I can deduce it came from a post office not far from my hometown but in a populated area from which a lot of our guests hail from, and about an hour from where we live. It was addressed only to me (bride) and not my fiancé. I have been wracking my brain for who could have possibly sent it but am coming up short. Any advice on how to not spiral??
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#33 Entitled Guest Takes A High Chair Not Meant For Them For The Child They Weren’t Supposed To Bring
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#34 I Bought This For A Wedding. And The Bride Won't Let Me Use It :(
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#35 Oh Dear, Oh Dear! Seen On Facebook!
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#36 Crazy Cousin Tries To Dump Her 8-Year Old Son On The Bride For Her Wedding Weekend
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#37 My Mother Cut My Wedding Cake Behind My Back And Ate It Off Her Hand. When I Told Her We Would Have To Spin The Cake For The Cutting Cake Photo, She Stormed Out In Front Of 150 Guests. I Asked For An Apology. Radio Silence Since 2017. I'm The Black Sheep By Dropping Contact
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#38 When Your Guest Brings Additional Guests And Wants More Food
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#39 Bride Needs To Find New Bridesmaids ASAP
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#40 I Got Married On Saturday. I Received This Message Randomly At 10:45pm During My Reception. (Full Story Below)
My wife and my venue was right next to another venue that was hosting a wedding reception at the same time. Around 9:00 pm, my bride pointed out some people by the bar (5-6 adults), and asked if I knew them because she did not. I also did not know them, so we approached. My wife asked if they were here for our wedding. One guy said, "Yeah we are". I replied, "okay, but neither of us know you, so you need to leave." A woman chimed in and said, "We just wanted to check it out over here, and just get one drink. We'll tip the bartender, don't worry." (My wedding had an open bar all night for beer and wine.) I said, "No, you need to leave right now. You were not invited to this wedding, and the drinks here are only for our guests. Please get out." They did leave after about a minute or so, during which I was on my way to rally some friends to make them leave. That was my only interaction with anyone from the other wedding, up until receiving this random message request on Facebook. The bride was certainly not one of the wedding crashers, and none of our guests went over to the other wedding reception, so I truly have no idea what happened with the other bride and why it's my fault.
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#41 When Someone Decides To Ask About Their Kids At An Explicitly No Kids Wedding The Day After We’ve Had To Submit Final Headcount To Catering
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#42 A Girl I Haven’t Spoken To Since Graduating High School Just Straight Up Asked For A Wedding Invite
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#43 Found One Out In The Wild LOL. What Does Everyone Think Of This?
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#44 I Have No Desire To Have A Relationship With My Mother In Law After How She Acted At Our Wedding
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#45 Quirky “Girl Best Friend” Ruins Wedding
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#46 Uncle Told My Cousin It Wouldn’t Be An Inconvenience To Bring Her BF 2 Weeks Before Our Wedding. Luckily She Planned A Wedding Before And Knows!
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#47 My Friend Got A Late Diagnosis Of Adhd And Has Become Super Entitled With It Wanting Everything To Be Inclusive. I Am Ok With This Bit Feel His Demands Are Too Excessive And Demanding. For Reference I Haven't Seen Him In 5 Years. Got These Messages Out Of The Blue And The Wedding Is In A Week
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#48 Daughter Of The Venue Owner Crashes Wedding
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#49 Adding Your Uninvited 12 Year Old And Foreign Exchange Student To A Wedding RSVP
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#50 Best Or Worst Wedding Gift Ever… You Decide
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#51 MOB Upset That She Can’t Have Full Control
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#52 The Audacity Of Some People. Why Would You Get Two RSVPS
I invited a cousin I practically never see only because I invited her mom and her sister whom I do see regularly. I gave in for her partner but now she’s asking for one additional.
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#53 That One Time My Mom Accused Me Of Intentionally Making Her Look Bad In My Sister’s Wedding Photos
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#54 Drunk Guy Peeing Behind Tent At Wedding Reception
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#55 Annoying Guest
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#56 Wow.. Just Wow
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#57 Children Are Allowed At My Wedding, So I Have A Question In My E-RSVP About How Many Will Attend. This Couple Added 2 Extra Adults, Who Aren’t Invited, And Then A Plus One For One Of Them! I Didn’t Know I Needed To Specify An Age Range, It Seemed Self Explanatory To Me…
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#58 Relatives Who Were Not Invited To Our (Gay) Wedding, Assumed They Were And Sent Us A Letter Condemning Our Marriage. We Responded In Kind
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#59 Handmade A Wood Sign For Our Wedding, Someone Decided To Ruin It During The Reception
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#60 Glamorous White Dress For A Wedding
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#61 Karen Mad Because Her Husband Was Invited To A Wedding. She Also Feels Personally Victimized By Vegetarians That Aren’t Serving Steak Dinners
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#62 Wedding Guest In An Aisle Seat & An Uninvited Plus One: A Supersized Soda
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#63 Bridesmaid Shames Bride For Panic Attack
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#64 When Auntzilla Strikes: A Story I Have Waited 7 Years To Tell
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